Are you having sex, Mom?

Another great post from one of my favorite bloggers:

“Are you having sex, Mom?”
That’s a question that could stop any mom dead in her tracks.
A single mom recently wrote us an email for our advice about this parenting dilemma: What do you say when your kids ask if you’re having sex?
We understand — and that’s why we’ve come up with some tips to help the next time your child poses a sticky question about your private life.
First, don’t panic. This is not the time to be candid and reveal all. Take a breath and resist the urge to babble inappropriately about your private life.

keep reading singlemommyhood here

Advice For Jon & Kate

Singlemommyhood.com has this interesting post about Jon & Kate:

Jon and Kate, formerly reality TV’s power couple, have announced that they’re splitting up.
At first, both of us were fascinated by these eight adorable kids, one hapless dad, and a dominating, super-organized mom. But now that we’ve watched this reality TV family’s pain become real, we’re concerned.

By now, you’ve heard Jon’s announcement last night: “Kate and I have decided to separate.”
Single parenthood can be daunting — especially when you willingly live your life in the media glare. We’d love to offer Jon and Kate some advice as they go their separate ways:

Mean it when you say, “The kids come first.” Both of you have said and done some incredibly insensitive and thoughtless things. Jon, apparently you are apartment-shopping in Manhattan. Say what? Why would you choose to live so far from your kids? Please focus on what’s best for your kids.

Rethink your life priorities. This is a big part of the single parent experience. It’s time for both of you to start thinking about “our kids.” Kate, we’ve heard you say often, “My kids” This is not helpful. Please must tone it down and allow Jon an equal parental role. Your kids need all the love, support, and guidance you can offer.

Save for your kids’ futures. You live off the work of your kids. Jon was quoted in People: “Every time a season renewal comes up, we always have a family discussion. Our kids are 80 percent of our family, and if they don’t want to film, we’re not filming.” So, your eight kids sit at a family meeting and get 80% of the vote on the financial future of your family? Get real. Make sure your kids have ample funds tucked away for their future needs like college.

Be responsible parents. Both of you have provided ample evidence that you’ve cheated on each other. How embarrassing and confusing for your kids to see all the headline tabloid speculation about your alleged infidelities. Everything is archived on the Internet. If the kids don’t know now, they surely will know later. All single parents deserve a private life, but responsible parenting comes first. You’ve chosen a public life. Accept the situation you’ve created and strive for discretion and privacy for your kids’ sake.

Work to co-parent together. You employ a small army of nannies, production assistants, and publicity agents. Forget the guest shot on Dr. Phil. Commit to work with qualified psychologists and get busy with the hard work of co-parenting. Clearly, communication will be your greatest challenge.

We’d love to know: what advice can you offer Jon and Kate?

You missed it….I hope YOU are HAPPY.

This note was posted to www.divorce360.com by d360 member eclectic. I really thinks it captures the heartache, pain, suffering and seriousness of divorce.

------
You missed it….I hope YOU are HAPPY.

My X said his affairs were a result of him not being “happy”. HE wants HIM to be happy.

So……
Last night we built a tent…..and you missed it.
Last night we had ice cream and many silly stories….and you missed it.
Last night our son had his first babysitting job, he got paid, he was SO excited….and you missed it.
Last night the kids had their fist volunteer night at the humane society….and you missed it.
And that is just last night.

So much has happened in the last year….
Bedtime kisses
Homework projects
Football
Softball
Smiles
Hugs
Broken hearts
Prom
Camping
Swim
Drivers license
First attempts at water skiing
First attempts at driving a boat
GoKarts
Fishing
Catching Frogs
Waterparks
Biking
Kids tears
Kids pain
Kids anger
Illness
…..and you have missed it all, I sure hope YOU are finally HAPPY.

Respond to this post here or on this blog here

How To Break Up With A Friend

Beliefnet has an article on how to break up with your friend. Have you ever had to this? Or has this ever happened to you?


Friendships are like marriages. Some evolve into mutually supportive and life-giving bonds while others grow more and more unhealthy, or even toxic. When a friendship ends—abruptly or subtly; via e-mail, phone conversation, or personal confrontation; with words or silence—I believe it needs to be mourned and processed in the same way as a divorce or painful breakup.



Read more here

Tips for Online Dating

Online Dating: 5 Tips for Getting the Most Out of Your Online Dating Experience

By LAURIE MOISON

Newly divorced and ready to try again? Want to try an online dating site, but not certain what to do or how? Here are four tips to help you make the most of your dating experience as you look for a new partner.

1. Figure out what kind of experience you want.
Do you want someone else to make the matches for you? Then sites such as eHarmony, Chemistry.com, and Match Platinum might be best bets because they do all the sorting and send you matches based on the various compatibility tests they offer. On the other hand, if you’re the take-charge type and want to scope out the possibilities yourself, Match.com, TRUE.com and Yahoo! Personals let you surf through their vast databases using various sort capabilities. Want the best of both worlds? Then, think about PerfectMatch where they’ll match you based on the results of your Duet® survey, PLUS, you get to surf yourself. If you prefer not to blow your own horn, you might want to take advantage of the newest online dating trend and get family and friends involved in helping you find the love of your life. Check out Cupid’s Lab, Engage.com or Match Making Friends.

Keep reading here on divorce360.com

From Complete Devastation to Unbelievably Better

MONTHLY PROFILE: A Q&A WITH TAMMY O'DONNELL:

Q. What were your initial thoughts/emotions when you realized you were getting a divorce?

A. Complete devastation, wondering why it was happening to me. Honestly, there were so many emotions that I was dealing with that I wanted to curl up into a ball and not face it. With having a child that isn't an option.

Read the rest of the interview on divorce360.com here

Even FBI agents are wary of this type of person

Nancy Michaels’ husband had a pet name for her. It was four letters and started with a “c.” Even with her husband’s foul name-calling, temper tantrums and manipulating behaviors, Michaels had a hard time admitting that she was married to a control freak.
read more about controlling spouses on divorce360.com