Are You Over 40, Divorced And Afraid Of Sex?

How To Get Over The Baggage And Get Back Out There


By DR. PHYLLIS GOLDBERG and DR. ROSEMARY LICHTMAN


Q: I’ve been on several first dates since my divorce but that’s as far as I’ve gone. Getting to know someone better will only lead to sex and, at 48 with a c-section and an abdominal surgery, I can’t imagine that. What can I do to get over being afraid? I’m so lonely.

A: Some women post-divorce date a lot and are intimate quickly as a way to prove that they’re still sexually desirable. Others swear off sex and vow to be celibate for the rest of their days. As is true with so many issues in life, you may want to strive for an attitude somewhere in the middle. Maybe you’re still trying to understand yourself in the context of the breakup of your marriage and not prepared for a serious relationship yet. However, when you are ready, consider that it’s a process that unfolds over time. If you think too much about sex itself at the beginning, it may keep you feeling stuck and lonely.

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Twitter And Facebook Your Way To Recovery?

After the Divorce, Social Networking Do's and Don'ts to Expand your Connections


By DIVORCE360.COM STAFF


So you're linkedin, twittering and finding friends on facebook. But after the divorce, can social networking really help you find the love of your life or is it simply a way to find some folks to talk to? It depends, according to divorce360 experts, who say relationships that begin on social networking sites require work and attention to survive -- just like any other relationship.

Dr. Jay Granat, Ph.D, encourages his newly divorced patients to "take advantage of the Internet and to utilize this efficient tool for meeting others" -- using caution and common sense, of course. "A number of my patients have married people who they have met on the Internet," he said.

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Was Your 1st Marriage Just Practice?

Use What You Learned From Past Relationships


By LINDA ROBERT


So you’ve had your share of relationships. So have I and recently I figured that I must have needed to learn a few things to get it right the next time. So I consider the first few times as practice and as you know “practice makes perfect”. The following tips will help you make the past practices worth while.

1. Accept your previous relationships or marriages as successes in something.
It couldn’t have been all bad, There are certainly some things that you can say that went well. What did you learn about yourself during those relationships? What are your bottom line wants and desires in a new relationship? What did you learn about your deal crashers from previous relationships? Everything that you’ve learned from those experiences is a success and a step in the right direction for the next one.

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